Is it true that 22 to 25 year old chubby, cute white girls wont fancy an ageing 29 year old guy deal

with borderline personality disorder, and whos waiting for therapy and whos trying to improve his life? because they are are my circumstances. and pale, chubby 22 to 26 year old white girls is what i fancy. but when i leave them friendly messages on myspace, none of them get back to me. ive never had a stable relashionship with somebody i want, and im beggining to think it aint never gonna happen.....i live in a small council flat, i await therapy and im tryin to think positive....but im lonely, dont have any friends, and i desperatly want that girl.. its not easy for me to go out either because of panic and anxiety. hell i get into a panic when i no i have to go, shopping. ive had criminal convictions in the past, nothin major, but im trying to work towards my dreams of emmegration still, to the us or canada. i get so lonely and im always thinking about that type of girl i want. i realise by asking this question ive made my self vunerable to abuse. but i dont care, if i can find

Is it true that 22 to 25 year old chubby, cute white girls wont fancy an ageing 29 year old guy dealing?

Try to think of the kind of personality you want a girl to have, thats more important for a long term relationship than what she looks like. And keep on trying. Its difficult to get any relationship worth having at first, so concentrate on being friends with a girl first. With more than one girl if you can. That way it will feel easier to talk to 'the one' when you finally meet her. Get what help you can from internet articles, books etc about your condition. Most people I know have had more help that way than from the actual therapy, and when youre in therapy be brutally honest with yourself. Dont pretend about anything. You can do a lot to help yourself. Try to take it a bit slower on the girl front as well. Dont get all screwed up about it, take your time to make friends first. And believe that one day it will all fall into place and youre gonna feel a lot better about yourself and the world. Life will get easier. Good luck.

Is it true that 22 to 25 year old chubby, cute white girls wont fancy an ageing 29 year old guy dealing?

To be really honest with you, I think you should sort your life out before you go looking for someone to share it with you.

Is it true that 22 to 25 year old chubby, cute white girls wont fancy an ageing 29 year old guy dealing?

Yeah, try getting the therapy BEFORE you hit on cute chubby white girls.

because the latter is kind of creepy.

Is it true that 22 to 25 year old chubby, cute white girls wont fancy an ageing 29 year old guy dealing?

I think you should stop limiting yourself to "chubby white girls between 22-25"...Do you realise how ridiculous that sounds?.Open your mind a bit,chat to allsorts of girls.Dont appear too desperate and you will find someone soon im sure.

Is it true that 22 to 25 year old chubby, cute white girls wont fancy an ageing 29 year old guy dealing?

You need to get your butt out there and start living your life. Don't wait around for a girl to fall in your lap. Get out there. Have fun. Go to the movies, a bar, coffee shops. Don't worry about being by yourself. Make friends. Come on mate, don't sit around thinking and waiting for life to get better. Go out and have the best damn time of your life that you deserve!

Is it true that 22 to 25 year old chubby, cute white girls wont fancy an ageing 29 year old guy dealing?

The best part is, you know what you want. YOu want the girl, but you also want to move, and you want to get help.

I need my own help, let me tell you, and I finally have insurance, but I'm procrastinating about the call.

I wonder if that's what you mean by awaiting therapy...

That is the first of many steps that you will make!

And there is someone for everyone.

You just need to be there for yourself right now.

Your priority should be yourself.

And maybe being part of a support group, where your story makes others feel better and not so alone.

Being someone else's mirror, or glimmer of light, or should er to cry on, can be an incredible lift.

If, of course, that's what the therapist recommends. I don't pretend ot know that, but I think that for both of us, getting out of our own world helps a whole lot more than thinking about ourselves! All the best to you!

Is it true that 22 to 25 year old chubby, cute white girls wont fancy an ageing 29 year old guy dealing?

ah bless

Is it true that 22 to 25 year old chubby, cute white girls wont fancy an ageing 29 year old guy dealing?

maybe you are trying a little too hard....try not telling them about your problems before you get to know them... and once you trust them and feel that they are understanding enough to handle it...then tell them x good luck x

Is it true that 22 to 25 year old chubby, cute white girls wont fancy an ageing 29 year old guy dealing?

Work on yourself first before you decide to bring someone else's problems into your life. You've named many difficult areas for a person to cope with, borderline personality, chubbiness, anxiety, panic, criminal convictions. Find a good therapist and work on these issues. Remember that all people in this world have issues. What issues they have they bring to relationships. You're having enough difficulty dealing with your own problems let alone someone elses!

Before that girl you like is going to give you a chance, you have to make yourself more marketable and as you are, you don't seem to have too much to sell.

One other thing... As you've got enough complications of your own, find yourself a nice stable girl when you're ready. I've had borderline patients meet in group then try a relationship. Obviously, they ended in disaster. You don't need that junk in your life.

Is it true that 22 to 25 year old chubby, cute white girls wont fancy an ageing 29 year old guy dealing?

I think you need to just keep trying. There is someone out there for everyone, it's just a matter of finding them. And even if you never find that person, your life can still be great. Just gotta keep working toward your goals.

Is it true that 22 to 25 year old chubby, cute white girls wont fancy an ageing 29 year old guy dealing?

Well, lets see. You describe yourself as aging, border-line personality disorder, felon, depressed, desperate, anti-social and lonely.

What's not to love???

Seriously, if you want to date a woman you need to change the qualifications. Would you date you with the qualifications listed above? I don't think so.

Part of dating is being able to sell yourself. Just like in a job interview, you do not tell the interviewer "Yes, I am totally likey to flake out and call in sick when you need me most!" You tell them all the good things about yourself and why you would be great for the job and let them find out about your slovenly habits or penchant for combat boots AFTER they hire you.

I'm not advocating lying. But nor do you have to start chatting up a girl by giving her a laundry list of your bad qualities. Because believe me, no one but an emotional cripple wants a man who needs to coddled. A woman wants a man who can take care of himself (and her).

You sound like you are being proactive in making changes in your life. Why not tell a potential date that?

Take care.

Is it true that 22 to 25 year old chubby, cute white girls wont fancy an ageing 29 year old guy dealing?

Take one step at a time.Positive thinking,go get a job, if you cant find one do voluntary help, (work in charity shops, help in a hospital............reason! you start to meet people.Go on a collage course ,join the gym,swimming ,even a church,then you meet people to have a coffee with, a quick pint at the pub with,this slowly but surely helps you widen your circle of friends,gives you a positive spin on how to begin and start afresh.there are others who are also lonely,havent got somebody to share a hobby with, like gardening,going jogging.Some one might need help painting their front room,pushing the broken car into their driveway,so simple yet so effective.A happy smile, a word of hello,a show of friendliness, a helping hand, and people will respond to you.But you must STOP, this with a white chubby girl,don't pigeon hole people, take as you find,and somebody one day will turn up that you have a lot in common with.What you going to do if they are black,white,brown5ft. 2in,and skinny,ignore them..........I think not.(maybe that's why you cant make friends)what goes around comes around,so i think a change of attitude is called for.So come on pull up them socks and have a go.

Is it true that 22 to 25 year old chubby, cute white girls wont fancy an ageing 29 year old guy dealing?

ok, what you need to realise first is that a girl is not a solution to all of your problems! you need to work on them first and then start looking for girls. i am sure that girls will not refuse you once you get the therapy you need and sort out your problems. and stop creating this "perfect girl" image, she doesn't exist outside of your fantasies. maybe she'll turn out to be black, skinny and 35, but you'll be able to love her still and she'll love you back. but you need to work on your problems first and then, when you are ready, start looking for a relationship.

Is it true that 22 to 25 year old chubby, cute white girls wont fancy an ageing 29 year old guy dealing?

Yet again I answer your question. Forget about girls for now and concentrate on sorting out yourself and the rest will fall into place.

Is it true that 22 to 25 year old chubby, cute white girls wont fancy an ageing 29 year old guy dealing?

Forget the US. You have a record.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself too. And start thinking as a survivor instead of going through life as a victim.

Leaving friendly messages on myspace ... do you tell them your exact specification and do you ask if they fit it? No wonder none ever gets back to you. Try telling them you have a good job, own a small flat and are looking to share it with someone. Bet more would answer then and especially if the fit the specifications!

Not surprised you haven't had a stable relationship ever. Just imagine ... you have found the 23year-old of your dreams. She is chubby and white. A bit of meat to please you? Any woman worth her weight in the chubbiness department has a personality too you know! You can only be that picky as you are and expect results if you can afford it. So to speak.

I suggest you find your own self-worth before you carry on with this chubby white girl mission. And who knows ... you might just come across her in the most unexpected place at the most unexpected moment. And then count your lucky stars and only tell her after a few years why you really fancied her in the first place.

Constructive critisism is what i call it. Good luck.

Is it true that 22 to 25 year old chubby, cute white girls wont fancy an ageing 29 year old guy dealing?

Maybe they think YOURE too cute and you're just taking the piss. Most of the chubby girls i know have low self esteem.

Perhaps you should find someone youre really attracted too and make her feel she's the most wonderful person you ever met. And hopefully you'll be telling the whole truth and nothing but. THEN it might work for you.

Some people just try far too hard. Let it lie and whatever you seek will find you.